ARE YOU GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE WHO…?

· Is jealous and possessive toward you, won't let you have friends, checks up on you and won't accept breaking up.
· Tries to control you, is bossy, gives orders, makes all the decisions and doesn't take your opinion seriously.
· Scares you. You worry about how they will react to things you say or do. They threaten you and own or use weapons.
· Is violent, gets into a lot of fights, loses their temper quickly or brags about mistreating others.
· Pressures you for sex. "If you really loved me you would…" Gets too serious about the relationship too fast. Thinks women are sex objects.
· Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them.
· Blames you when they mistreat you - "You made me do it."
· Has a history of bad relationships and blames others for their problems.
· Believes that men should be in control and powerful and women should be passive and submissive.
· Your family and friends have warned you about the person or have told you they are worried about your safety.

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might want to discuss your relationship confidentially with your parents, a trusted teacher, your school nurse or counsellor. You can also call:

Sexual Health Clinic

519-258-2146 ext 1200 or 1201

 Sexual Assault Crisis Center

519-258-3100

 Teen Health Center

519-253-8481

Reviewed May 1, 2007

Borrowed with permission from the London Health unit