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What To Do If Someone You Know is Being Abused
If you suspect someone you know is being abused, listen and be supportive. It is important not to blame her for the abuse. Tell her that what is happening is wrong and that he is responsible for his actions. Tell her that she did not cause the abuse or deserve it.
Be sure to tell her that he won't just stop the abuse. Both of them need to get help.
How To Help An Assaulted Woman
- Assure her that you believe her story.
- Listen and let her talk about her feelings.
- Do not judge or give advice. Talk to her about her options.
- Physical safety is the first priority. If you believe she is in danger, tell her. Help her plan an emergency exit.
- Respect her right to confidentiality.
- Let her know you care and want to help.
- Allow her to feel the way she does and support her decisions. Let her talk about the caring aspects of the relationship as well. Don't try to diminish her feelings about her partner. Don't criticize her for staying with him, but share information on how abuse increases over time without intervention.
- Give clear messages, including: violence is never okay; her safety and her children's safety are always the most important issues; she does not cause the abuse and she is not alone.
- Discuss how the violence affects the children.
- Be encouraged that every time she reaches out for help she is gaining the emotional strength needed to make effective decisions.
Reference: Education Wife Assault