Sibling rivalry is normal. Many parents get upset when children fight. What is a parent to do? Here are some suggestions and information.

Reasons children fight:

• It can be hard for children to share.
• Children want parents to pay attention to them and no one else.
• Young children don't have enough language yet. 

What to do when young children fight:

• If they fight over a toy, try to distract them with something more interesting.
• Talk about how each child is feeling. "How do you think Jason feels when you take his toy?"
• Separate them until they can play nicely.  

What to do when preschool age children fight:

• Wait to see if the children involved can solve the problem on their own.
• Get involved when children hurt each other with their hands or words.
• Stay calm and help the children to calm down. 
• Don't take sides.
• Help them understand how the other child is feeling.
• Tell them, "The two of you need to work this out on your own."
• If needed, offer choices that provide a win-win solution.
• If necessary, separate the children until they can play together nicely.

Ways to decrease sibling rivalry:

• Every child needs special fun time alone with you or the other parent.
• Keep children busy with activities. They will fight less.
• Praise your children when they are getting along.
• Avoid playing favourites.

Contact the Intake nurse at 519-258-2146 ext. 1350 for a free copy of our Sibling Rivalry handout.